Sometimes i think it's easier to find a new job, find a new boo and find a new apartment than to find a new friend. Moving from here to there has left me at a dearth of female friends who I really like to hang out with and feel like I can be myself around... So I am trying to make new friends... but how do you do that without being creepy? I mean I wish it was as easy as being a kid when you could say "wanna be my friend?" and that was done.. you didnt have to do anything else... You could sit next to someone at school 3 days in a row and then not do anything else. BAM we are BFFs.
I have always found it difficult to make friends. I dont think I have been in very many situations where I have had to take initiative to make a friend. I just used to go to school and eventually you are friends... or you work at a job in the summer and BOOM we are friends... because in most situations everyone is in same boat and everyone is looking for friends and so you just make them... But now.. when everyone has a friend group already.. how do you make friends, without seeming like a desperate loser? Do you ask someone to go out to eat? cause isnt that like a date? or ask if they'd like to get together sometimes? thats still like a date... or for their number? or do you google stalk them and find a reason to email them so you can build a "casual" friendship.. or at least try.. OR do you jsut be honest and say.. You know I am really looking to make some new friends and was wondering if you'd like to hang out?
IDK
I'd love your feedback on this one too! What approach would make you responsive, and not creeped out if someone you met wanted to be your friend?
STereOtyPes
I went to a workshop yesterday and thought it was stupid.. and a waste of my time. I was sitting there doing the exercises thinking.. what is the point of this? Why is she still talking? Goodness I wish she (the facilitator) would hush! I've been to a lot of workshops and generally love the idea of activities and a group of people coming together to accomplish something... BUT this workshop, which was supposed to be all about combating stereotypes.. really was just about "We all have more in common than we have different" (which I think is a large generalization, which shouldn't be trusted at face value,) AND "Your first impressions aren't correct, you should wait to get to know someone first because"... revisit point number 1.
I know that. I still judge people. I know that just because someone is from another place, or race or religion or whatever than me.. doesn't mean anything really... We could still be best friends.. but I mean it still remains that I look for the black girl to sit next too..I yearn for friends from the North and I'd be hard pressed to go to a school that is not in the top tier. I was looking for the workshop to help me sort through those prejudices or really challenge my innate assertions, because I think that is one of the most important things that educators must do. It's very easy to judge students and parents based on tiny bits of information, but it's important to constantly work past that and to be able to uncover those hidden biases that we don't know we have until we are challenged by someone else with a different point of view.
By the end of the session, i was on my BB checking e-mail and tweeting and being completely rude... but she was droning on and on.. I was underwhelmed and having done some diversity training in the past left a lot of comments on my feedback form.
Sooooo later that day... I was telling my mom about it and kinda whining and complaining and she says in response to something... "that's cause you're arrogant." and I was thinking.. eh she's probably right... but how do I get over that? How do I not roll my eyes internally at people who cant put together a sentence, but are public speakers, or who are educators, but tell incorrect information? How should I feel when my time is being wasted? Or should I change my perspective so that I can find some value in time spent with others??
im ready for your feedback.. my 2 commenters. Thanks! LOL and other lurkers, you know who you are, you can comment too.
I know that. I still judge people. I know that just because someone is from another place, or race or religion or whatever than me.. doesn't mean anything really... We could still be best friends.. but I mean it still remains that I look for the black girl to sit next too..I yearn for friends from the North and I'd be hard pressed to go to a school that is not in the top tier. I was looking for the workshop to help me sort through those prejudices or really challenge my innate assertions, because I think that is one of the most important things that educators must do. It's very easy to judge students and parents based on tiny bits of information, but it's important to constantly work past that and to be able to uncover those hidden biases that we don't know we have until we are challenged by someone else with a different point of view.
By the end of the session, i was on my BB checking e-mail and tweeting and being completely rude... but she was droning on and on.. I was underwhelmed and having done some diversity training in the past left a lot of comments on my feedback form.
Sooooo later that day... I was telling my mom about it and kinda whining and complaining and she says in response to something... "that's cause you're arrogant." and I was thinking.. eh she's probably right... but how do I get over that? How do I not roll my eyes internally at people who cant put together a sentence, but are public speakers, or who are educators, but tell incorrect information? How should I feel when my time is being wasted? Or should I change my perspective so that I can find some value in time spent with others??
im ready for your feedback.. my 2 commenters. Thanks! LOL and other lurkers, you know who you are, you can comment too.
I want favored wind.
I am reading a book about writing.. which is really helping me as a writer and a teacher... and I came across this quote by Michel de Montaigne, a 16th century essayist:
"No wind favors him who has no destined port."
I dont have a destined port. I need one. I'll get back to you in December with my port destination. This will help clear up lots of things.
Where is your port? I'm grasping at straws here.
"No wind favors him who has no destined port."
I dont have a destined port. I need one. I'll get back to you in December with my port destination. This will help clear up lots of things.
Where is your port? I'm grasping at straws here.
i hate twilight
i hate twilight, new moon, breaking dawn and eclipse. I hate stephenie meyer, edward, bella, jacob, billy, charlie, renee, alice, emmett, seth, embry, esme, carlisle, all of them. leah.. every single character, every actor who plays them. I hate it all, with a passion unmatched. If it would all disappear, I would watch Nancy Grace every night religiously. and i am dead serious. sigh
goals
Today I worked out.. that makes three days this week.. each day I don't want to..I just force myself. .i love it once I start.. but i cant remember that i will love it
when i leave my job and think aaahhh i wanna lay on the couch with a beeer. I hate it. But I do it.. and I end up loving it.
I also hate the feeling of my fat sloshing around when i run.. but the worst part is that I have to keep running to not feel it slosh around on my stomach. womp.
I have also flossed everyday... :-)
when i leave my job and think aaahhh i wanna lay on the couch with a beeer. I hate it. But I do it.. and I end up loving it.
I also hate the feeling of my fat sloshing around when i run.. but the worst part is that I have to keep running to not feel it slosh around on my stomach. womp.
I have also flossed everyday... :-)
Goals for the end of the year.
1. floss EVERY single day
2. Work out 4 days a week
3. finish a boot camp
4. finish 3 more books
5. Lose 10 pounds
6. learn to make 2 new healthy dishes
7. Smile more.
I can do this. I can do this. I can do this. I can do this. I can do this. I can do this. I can do this. I can do this. I can!
What if the rest of your life was the best of your life? <---- my motto forever
1. floss EVERY single day
2. Work out 4 days a week
3. finish a boot camp
4. finish 3 more books
5. Lose 10 pounds
6. learn to make 2 new healthy dishes
7. Smile more.
I can do this. I can do this. I can do this. I can do this. I can do this. I can do this. I can do this. I can do this. I can!
What if the rest of your life was the best of your life? <---- my motto forever
Saturday
Saturday is truly my day of rest. I dont do nothing. Sometimes I feel like I should be doing something but hell to the naw.. im gonna catch up on my shows and eat some food and maybe not get out of bed... its loverly to have the leisure to do so... i dont think this post has a point.. but thats what im doing right now, nothing hahaha
book lover
I got a new library card today. I moved, and so now I live in a municipality with a different library system and I am in love with the fact that the country created libraries. SO many books.. so little time.. you can browse and peruse.. you can read and re-read.. and all for free. (until you turn your books in late, which I always do) But whatever.
Just enough for the nerd in me to get a little high. Nothing better than looking through rows and rows of books of all different titles.
I also bought some used book at a book sale at my school this weekend. i wonder who has read them and what they thought.. did they finish it.. did they love it or hate it.. do they feel the same feelings I feel as I read the book...hmmm
Just enough for the nerd in me to get a little high. Nothing better than looking through rows and rows of books of all different titles.
I also bought some used book at a book sale at my school this weekend. i wonder who has read them and what they thought.. did they finish it.. did they love it or hate it.. do they feel the same feelings I feel as I read the book...hmmm