I went to a workshop yesterday and thought it was stupid.. and a waste of my time. I was sitting there doing the exercises thinking.. what is the point of this? Why is she still talking? Goodness I wish she (the facilitator) would hush! I've been to a lot of workshops and generally love the idea of activities and a group of people coming together to accomplish something... BUT this workshop, which was supposed to be all about combating stereotypes.. really was just about "We all have more in common than we have different" (which I think is a large generalization, which shouldn't be trusted at face value,) AND "Your first impressions aren't correct, you should wait to get to know someone first because"... revisit point number 1.

I know that. I still judge people. I know that just because someone is from another place, or race or religion or whatever than me.. doesn't mean anything really... We could still be best friends.. but I mean it still remains that I look for the black girl to sit next too..I yearn for friends from the North and I'd be hard pressed to go to a school that is not in the top tier. I was looking for the workshop to help me sort through those prejudices or really challenge my innate assertions, because I think that is one of the most important things that educators must do. It's very easy to judge students and parents based on tiny bits of information, but it's important to constantly work past that and to be able to uncover those hidden biases that we don't know we have until we are challenged by someone else with a different point of view.

By the end of the session, i was on my BB checking e-mail and tweeting and being completely rude... but she was droning on and on.. I was underwhelmed and having done some diversity training in the past left a lot of comments on my feedback form.

Sooooo later that day... I was telling my mom about it and kinda whining and complaining and she says in response to something... "that's cause you're arrogant." and I was thinking.. eh she's probably right... but how do I get over that? How do I not roll my eyes internally at people who cant put together a sentence, but are public speakers, or who are educators, but tell incorrect information? How should I feel when my time is being wasted? Or should I change my perspective so that I can find some value in time spent with others??

im ready for your feedback.. my 2 commenters. Thanks! LOL and other lurkers, you know who you are, you can comment too.


b.enchanted said...

Yeah, you can be arrogant at times, but it's typically out of annoyance for the uneducated people that think they know what they're talking about...
IMO, nothing wrong with that!

identitycrisis said...

I don't think there is anything wrong with being annoyed with the things you listed. Public speakers should know how to speak and educators shouldn't be dumb. More people need to get upset and let them know that certain things need to be corrected. One of my profs (from my non-top tier grad school [I'm learning that I'm a school snob too but I bit the bullet on this one. Won't make the same mistake with my next degree]) had no subect-verb agreement and put a "k" on the end of "ct" words. No one took him seriously at all. I digress.

If you actually want to get to know people who aren't like you, go to something local but non-EBP - possibly a book club at the library. Volunteer with people you don't know or hang out with your friends' not-so-educated friends/coworkers. Grit your teeth and ignore the bad grammar/different background until you find something in common. Unfortunately, most diversity workshops aren't meant for people with more than one "other" friend. If you don't want to get to know other people, don't worry about it. Although, it may help to remember that some of your EBP friends come from families like those of your students, even if you didn't.

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